Today is Mother’s Day, if you didn’t know. So Happy Mother’s Day to you moms out there!
My Busy, Little Life
I’ve been on a bit of of a blog break but plan on writing more soon. I’ve been crazy busy with house projects, school, work, and appointments. Yesterday, we worked on weeding, moving plants, and mulching our front yard. Always something to do, but feels good once it gets done!
As I said, life has been pretty busy. We finished our IEP meeting, toured a transitional school, and finished up with the autism specialist. I signed up my kids for classes next year, attended the end of the year drama performance that all my kids were in, and now I’m wrapping up the end of the school year. Home projects like new windows, painting, floors, and new trim have consumed a bunch of my time too.
Reflecting on Mother’s Day
Parenting always seems to have its own set of stresses and I always feel like I’m making bad choices or my kids hate me. I wonder if I’ve made good choices for them when they were little so that they will be thoughtful, lovely people as adults. But then I get hints of why I love my family and why I do what I do.
So my middle daughter gave me this today:
She painted an E for my office which I love. Obviously the E is for Elle. The card she drew and colored. I love the little anime she drew and the quote on the card. It made my day. It was a sweet thing to get such a thoughtful gift. It’s even more special when I realize I have a little more in common with her than I thought.
The Changing Roles of Mothers
Some people feel sad that their children are growing up and they wished they’d stay little. For me, I always loved my kids, sacrificed for them, and tried to put myself in their shoes. And sometimes I just didn’t fit very well in those shoes. I didn’t care for Barney, Barbie, video games, or those silly vines you see online. I literally felt like a dumb mom. But now that my kids are older, I have found some new interests because I have more time. Art is her thing and now it’s mine too! So we like to trade off art materials and show each other our creations. I really enjoy having something in common with my kids.
I have stuff in common more and more with my other kids too, although they will always be individuals. I still have to work sometimes to see things from their perspective. But sometimes it’s nice to be “in the know” on the things they enjoy. Like going to the bookstore and talking about anime books together or watching a TV show together and laughing. I didn’t always do that when my kids were little but now I can.
Mother’s Day Gratitude
I’m thankful this Mother’s Day for my kids who teach me to have empathy, but also teach me to find the things I enjoy in life. Taking time to learn new things doesn’t keep me apart from my kids, but instead, it helps us connect even more. 2 of my kids have sat and watched me hand letter cards just for fun. Taking “me” time to do something I enjoy has actually made me a better mom. I love sharing what I know with them and watching them open up and share their world with me too.