I’ve done a lot of blogging over the years. I can recall some of the name of my websites from the past 10 or so years:
- Cross Driven – where I knew everything about God and tried to tell people how to live (ha ha).
- Michelle Buck – personal this and that
- What the Elle – blogging about life
- TakeTwoReviews – a review blog my sister and I made
- Social Anemia – a blog about introversion and faith which turned into ranting about my last church
- Every Day Elle – your looking at it
I know I’ve had more than these but these are the ones that stand out.
Every time I start blogging on a new blog and get it going, seems like I start getting discouraged by it because 1) the lack of comments and I hate talking to myself, or 2) insulting or insensitive comments or the wrong kind of audience which attracts some bizarre / uncomfortable discussions.
I stopped blogging at my last blog because I had some guy following me around on all my social media, accusing me of not being who I said I was. He was paranoid and thought I was one of his co-workers. I kept insisting that I wasn’t but he wanted me to “prove it” on Skype. So I deleted and blocked him, but I also threw my hands up in the air and deleted my blog.
My Blog Plans
I spent the better part of last year trying to monetize this blog with my art. It wasn’t me. I love art, don’t get me wrong. But the pressure to monetize this blog made me hate it. So when the new year rolled around, I tried something else and hated that too. I was trying to be chipper, but came off a bit like a self-help guru. I don’t like those kinds of blogs as reading material, so I figured if I didn’t like that, why would I stick that out?
But now, after only a week, I’m loving the new format and the more “realness” of this blog, but I’m confused (again) by the comments I get from strangers. Specifically, just one. I’m not exactly sure if the person is joking, seriously annoyed with me, or just bored, but it’s getting to that point where I feel like I need someone to explain it all to me. And it’s starting to make me wonder about this whole blogging thing.
Blogging & Relating to Others
I pride myself on being able to read others well–and in most cases, I’m pretty darn accurate. But, this has me completely stumped, mostly because I can’t read body language through a computer and because I don’t understand the humor, if this in fact humor. I’m assuming he’ll be reading this at some point, so as to not offend anyone, I feel a bit like I stepped into the twilight zone.
I’ll post the email I received in parts with my response. Further, I *apologize* to the poster who said I should have told him if I was offended, but how was I supposed to reach someone who uses a fake email address and a fake name? Not sure how that works.
I guess it’s time to be sincere and fess up, among other things.
I returned today, and was disappointed and both surprised but NOT surprised to find the Happiness topic gone.
Despite my initial glib approach to it, I thought it was a great topic, leastwise (dare I say) as compared with tetanus shots.??
I suspect my frivolous posts may have had something to do with its disappearance, though I DID ask to be warned asap if my sense of humor offended you, etc.
Honestly, I’m not sure I care if I disappointed you because, after all, this is my blog. I pay for it. I manage it. I write and delete whatever I want. It’s my version of a free country. If you are disappointed, how about starting your own blogging adventure? There are a lot of free options out there. You could use your fake name and use your “glib approach” over there? Just a suggestion. Also, my tetanus shot post was liked by some. It’s ok if you find it boring, but I will keep doing my thing. You can keep doing yours. Ok?
I wasn’t offended. In fact, I had been thinking “this isn’t me” before any of your comments. When you came and said something, I realized that I was coming off as not myself and decided on a “do over”. My free country was wiped clean.
Blogging: An Explanation?
The thing is this. I initially found you at a religion type Youtube video, and thought your comments were interesting, so first of all, I assumed you had interest in Christian-related topics. AND it had been a slow week. What I mean by that is, for over a year I’ve been writing a journal. I’d maybe call it a book, but it might be bad luck. The subject essentially is my various adventures attending two churches and my related correspondence with various fellow members, etc. Consequently, I sometimes try to get things moving by just being a little off the wall.
I also was interested, because I was raised in Minnesota; and having found it to be possibly the most repressed and anti-communication state in the union, I thought you might be a rare exception, since you seemed to espouse a desire for honesty and taking things deeper.., which if true, would have made pulling the happiness topic all the more ironic imho.
So, seeing that I’m not someone who requires protocol, tip-toeing and little white lies, I would be grateful etc to know what your thinking was in ditching the happiness topic and moving back to the center of the lane. (Or were you the one who said the Oprah thing was just not you??)
I kind of already explained why. You can also find my post here with a more detailed reason.
At any rate, I’m gathering that, despite my fantasies, we are NOT kindred spirits, and your style is more sober, straight from the hip, and you think and observe from the earnest, conscientious perspective of a more or less normal wife and mother, with perhaps only an occasional fleeting appetite for examining things in depth. But, if you wanted to be in the book, you’d have to give me something more lively to work with.
I don’t think I’ve ever been called “normal” in my entire life, so…thank you? If I can pull of normal, then I can rule the world (*that was sarcasm).
My Curious Looks
I do however hope that you will not entirely abandon your faith in God, despite that he can seem irksomely distant at times.. And if you ever want to etc etc, I’m here.. ready, willing, and able to convince you the earth is flat.
The only thing about which I remain curious is your actual appearance, owing to the vast difference in the several photographs. No biggie. I think the person I THOUGHT I was writing was your website avatar with a sort of restless mouse-like quality, and the person you REALLY are is the more placid, matronly look adjacent boy with straw. Imho, these two people look nothing alike. You’ve got to admit, it’s curious.
I had to read this comment 4 times and I still don’t understand it. Are you making a joke? Or just trying to insult me? I’m confused honestly. If I realized my photos would be such a hardship for you, I would have reverted to using a bitmoji. My bad. Here you go:
On the other hand, if you think I actually pose a danger to the homogenous community you have there, either I can send you a reference from my pastor, or just block me when I start submitting marriage advice, like.. Never drive Anywhere in the car together.
Again, I don’t understand if this is a joke, or you are insulting me. It’s rather bizarre. I’m not sure a reference from a Pastor would do you much good as I don’t care for the sort.
Best of luck!!
And btw, when I discovered the Happiness link was gone, I was trying to submit another cage-rattling post, which included the following:
“And seriously, if you opt to remain disengaged from this.. “topic”.., would you kindly just sweep it up and throw it away, all my numerous giddy posts, which would until who knows when just lie there bleaching in the desert sun like skulls of dead cattle. It’s embarrassing.!!
Mr. Amen, if you don’t want your posts to be published or, oh, I don’t know, written about on a blog, then probably a good idea to keep this kind of thing to yourself.
My Tolerance & Blogging
With all that said, I am ok with weird discussions and that kind of thing, but if you are just going to poke fun at me for various reasons, then I would rather you leave. I will admit, I don’t understand this kind of conversation. If it’s joking, then I need some lessons on what kind of humor this is as I’ve never–in my life–ran into this kind of thing. It’s even more confusing than being stalked.
I have to ponder, is this person trying to emotionally piss me off or is he just bored? Is he trying to make a valid point? If so, what is it? Please school me on what goes on in your brain. I don’t get it.
With my history of dropping blogs, I will admit, I am skeptical of such things. I also am not fond of fake names and fake emails. I get your need for privacy, but when you email me and I can’t respond, it makes things strange. Now I’m having to listen to someone go on and on about my photos, my blog posts, and whatever else, but I can’t respond. It’s unnerving.
I aim to disappoint, so this blog will continue as is with my “normal”, “homogenous community” and my “mouse-like” photos. I happen to like my blog and others do too, so that’s all that really matters. Can’t please everyone, as they say.
If you really want something more lively, I’ve created this Snap Chat video. It wasn’t meant specifically for you, but it shows off my “mouse-like” qualities and displays how normal I really am. Considering I’m significantly plain and boring, Snap Chat might be a new place to hang. Lots of more interesting people over there. Maybe some new material for your book?
I don’t know. pic.twitter.com/yjkhjLVVlJ
— Elle Buck (@everyday_elle) January 16, 2018